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College of Education and Allied Professions

David de Jong, Ph.D.

David De Jong


After a career as a bicycle messenger and owner of a boutique courier service, I completed a B.S. in psychology at University of Toronto, then a Ph.D. in social-personality psychology at University of Rochester. While studying at University of Rochester, I was advised by Harry Reis, and was a visiting scholar at Interdisciplinary Center (IDC), Herzliya, Israel, mentored by Gurit Birnbaum.




  • Ph.D. Social-Personality Psychology, University of Rochester
  • B.S. with Distinction, Psychology, University of Toronto


  • Human Sexuality
  • Research Design and Data Analysis


My research focuses on how social-cognitive and interpersonal processes, such as partner perception, motivation, and sexual desire contribute to relationship, emotional, and sexual well-being in couples and individuals. In my research I examine questions such as:

  • What role does compatibility of romantic partners' sexual likes and dislikes have in how satisfied they are with their sex life? Could it be that positive illusions of sexual compatibility also plays a role?
  • Does it matter whether romantic partners understand each other's sexual preferences, or is it just the feeling of being understood that matters?
  • Presumably, the sexual desire partners feel for each other impacts their sex life. But we also know that sexual desire tends to decline as relationships lengthen. Are people willing or able to admit that they may not be as hot for their partners as they once were? How can we measure sexual desire if they are not?
  • Why do people engage in casual sex, and do these different reasons predict how they feel about the hook up afterwards?


  • de Jong, D. C., Reis, H. T., Peters, B. J., DeHaan, C. R., & Birnbaum, G. E. (2019). The role of implicit sexual desire in couples' sex lives. Personality and Individual Differences, 149, 46-56.
  • Wyatt, R. B., de Jong, D. C., & Holden, C. J. (2019). Spectatoring mediates the association between penis appearance concerns and sexual dysfunction. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 45, 328-338.
  • de Jong, D. C., Adams, K., & Reis, H. T. (2018). Predicting women’s emotional responses to hooking up: Do motives matter? Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 34, 532-556.
  • de Jong, D. C., & Reis, H. T. (2015). Sexual similarity, complementarity, accuracy, and overperception in same-sex couples. Personal Relationships, 22, 647-665.​
  • de Jong, D. C., & Reis, H. T. (2015). We do it best: Commitment and positive construals of sex. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 34, 181-202.​
  • de Jong, D. C., & Reis, H. T. (2014). Sexual kindred spirits: Actual and overperceived similarity, complementarity, and accuracy in heterosexual couples. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 40, 1316-1329.​
  • de Jong, D. C. (2009). The role of attention in sexual arousal: Implications for treatment of sexual dysfunction. Journal of Sex Research, 46, 237-248.​
  • de Jong, D. C., & Reis, H. T. (2016). Love and intimacy. In H. S. Friedman (Ed.), Encyclopedia of mental health (2nd ed., Vol. 3, pp. 25-32). Waltham, MA: Academic Press.​
  • Reis, H. T., de Jong, D. C., Lee, K. Y., O'Keefe, S. D., & Peters, B. J. (2016). Promoting intimacy: Strategies suggested by the appetitive side. In C. R. Knee & H. T. Reis (Eds.), Positive approaches to optimal relationship development (pp.3-29). Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.


Editorial Board

  • Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Journal Manuscript Referee

  • International Journal of Play
  • Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy
  • Journal of Sex Research
  • Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
  • Personal Relationships


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